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Antropologi Indonesia

Abstract

Abstract

This article examines the formation of self-concept in adults growing up in military families in Indonesia that practice authoritarian parenting. Moving away from a binary positive-negative perspective, this article argues that authoritarian parenting in the military context operates as a cultural reproduction, where military institutional values infiltrate the realm of family care at home and shape individual dispositions. Command culture then manifests as doxa, a system that naturalizes parental intervention and limits children's ability to make crucial life choices. Data collection for this article employed a qualitative method with a case study approach and triangulation process through interviews with participants who were biological children who grew up with parents working in the military. The purpose of this study is to examine a child's experiences and the meanings formed when exposed to authoritarian practices and their interpretations after experiencing numerous life transitions caused by other influences. A literature review was also used in this research to provide theoretical and empirical support for the interview results. The research findings indicate that self-concept is formed not through individual free reflexivity but rather through long-term habituation through parenting practices, a process that is continually negotiated through accepting what has been experienced, along with the accompanying inner turmoil. Ultimately, understanding parenting requires a relational perspective that views parenting style as a complex reflection of cultural dynamics, power relations, and the process of becoming human within a culture.

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Artikel ini mengkaji tentang pembentukan konsep diri orang dewasa yang tumbuh di keluarga militer di Indonesia yang menerapkan pola asuh otoritarian. Beranjak dari pandangan biner positif-negatif, artikel ini berargumen bahwa pola asuh otoritarian dalam konteks militer bergerak sebagai reproduksi kultural, dimana nilai-nilai institusi militer terinfiltrasi ke ranah pengasuhan keluarga di rumah dan membentuk disposisi individu. Kultur komando kemudian menjelma sebagai doxa, sebuah tatanan yang membuat intervensi orang tua menjadi natural dan membatasi anak dalam menentukan pilihan-pilihan krusial dalam hidupnya. Pengumpulan data artikel ini menggunakan metode kualitatif dengan pendekatan studi kasus serta proses triangulasi dengan wawancara terhadap partisipan dengan status anak kandung yang proses tumbuh kembangnya bersama orang tua yang bekerja di dunia militer. Tujuan kajian ini adalah untuk melihat bagaimana pengalaman seorang anak dan pemaknaan yang terbentuk saat terpapar tindakan otoritarian dan pemaknaannya pasca mengalami banyak transisi kehidupan yang disebabkan oleh pengaruh lain. Kajian literatur juga digunakan dalam penelitian ini guna dukungan teori dan empiris terhadap hasil wawancara. Hasil penelitian menunjukkan bahwa konsep diri terbentuk bukan karena refleksivitas bebas individu tetapi berasal dari pembiasaan jangka panjang melalui praktik pengasuhan orang tua, hal yang akan terus dinegosiasikan tentang menerima segala yang telah dilalui berikut dengan pergolakan batin yang menyertai. Pada akhirnya, pemahaman terhadap pola asuh menuntut perspektif relasional yang kemudian melihat gaya asuh sebagai sebuah cerminan kompleks dari dinamika budaya, relasi kuasa dan proses menjadi manusia dalam suatu kebudayaan.

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